SAMPLE: MY CRITERIA
Man seeking Woman Who:
(Not in any order of importance)
1. __ Likes and participates in good/interesting conversation
2. __ Is financially responsible
3. __ Is financially self-sufficient, doesn't need a Sugar Daddy
4. __Is into gardening, landscaping, building things...proficient with power tools
5. __ Is creative- i.e.: artist, writer, musician, etc.
6. __ Likes to explore new things, places and situations-- is adventurous
7. __ Likes to receive and give back rubs, likes snuggling
8. __ Is good at solving problems, not creating them
9. __ Laughs a lot and has a good sense of humor
10. __Wants a relationship based on being an equal Partner and Co-creator
11. __ Is Spiritual, Magical - actually a practitioner
12. __ Is erotic/ sensuous
13. __ Is not into mind reading
14. __Is not controlling nor into being controlled
15. __ Is not flashy or self-centered
16. __ Is trusting- centered -balanced ( tries to live in "hozo")
17. __ Believes in giving people, especially patner the "benefit of the doubt"
18. __ Is not excessively judgmental
19. __ Is not overly critical - tries to see good or beauty in everything
20. __ Is loving, touching, affectionate and likes to be touched
21. __ Likes me for who and what I am and doesn't condition love on changing me
22. __ Is not angry and is not cultivating a garden of resentments
23. __ Is not fearful
24. __ Understands and lives in synchronistic world
25. __ Is very individuated, has strong boundaries, and will draw the line on boundary invasions
26. __ Wants to be a good friend and companion and have a good friend and companion in return
27. __ Likes to share, but also respect's other's self time and needs own self-time
28. __Doesn't see every disagreement as a relationship ending opportunity or event
29. __ Has good self-esteem, is confident - likes herself
30. __ Is not a neat/clean freak
31. __ Likes animals (even better if she talks to animals) wouldn't mind having chickens in back yard
32. __ Has adult children living away from home, no child problems
33. __ Likes and gets along with my kids who are adults and live away from home
34. __ Is not rigid in thinking & beliefs.. .no fundamentalism
35. __ Is Liberal/Democrat.. .enjoys politics
36. __ Does not fight about money
37. __ Doesn't have too many problem relatives
38. __ Is not the jealous type
39. __ Is not into pressuring or game playing
40. __ Is not into hammering
41. __ Is versatile--blue jeans to slinky gowns
42. __Is comfortable with and enjoys a wide range of people
43. __ Knows rules of argument to get to a positive result
44. __ Wants a committed, monogamous relationship
45. __Understand "shadows" and how to deal with them
46. __ Is a moderate or infrequent drinker
47. __ Is a smoker or at least tolerant of a smoker (me) as long as I don't smoke inside
48. __ Likes romantic situations, candle light, full moons, picnics by streams
49. __Likes movies, books with happy endings, likes to discuss books and movies
50. __ Watches stuff on TV like History Channel and PBS.
51. __ Has an eclectic taste in music--likes live music
52. __ Likes theater, art galleries, museums.
53. __ Enjoys yard sailing, antiquing, junk yards
54.__ Enjoys quests--such as for the source of the Jackalope and has own quests to pursue
55.__ Doesn't care about labels on anything.
56. __ Is comfortable trading lead in everything from dancing to life - no traditional male-female role games
57. __ Is beyond male-female conflict - is a self-aware Goddess.
58. __ Doesn't set up false expectations in order to be angry
59.__ Has a positive outlook on life--sees everything as an opportunity to learn and have new adventures.
60. __ Is living in the Now and not the Past or Future.
61. __ Is Empathic
62. __ Is approximately the same age (59)
63. __ Is thin, medium, well-proportioned, athletic - reasonably healthy
64. __ Is 5 foot to 5'8" or so
65. __ Does expect me to want to do everything she likes to do with her, and vice versa.
66. __ Is really smart... wise (education credentials irrelevant) i.e. crone
67. __ Likes outdoors - hiking, walking, outrigger canoeing, exploring,
68. __ Isn't afraid to take on a cause to make the world (or at least a little part of it) a better place.
69. __ Is courageous
70. __ Not hesitant to express opinions.. mouthy is good!
71. __ Is open with expressing emotions and expects the same in return
72. __ Is fiercely loyal and expects the same in return.
73. __ Is nurturing in the empowerment mode and expects the same in return
74. __ Doesn't see her (or my) past failed relationships as anything but a learning process to do better the next time.