DETERMINE YOUR SEXUAL RELATIONSHIP INCOMPATIBILITY UP FRONT
Before you embark on a quest to find your perfect match, it is useful to be honest with yourself about your faults, quirks, and likes and dislikes..
If you have one or more failed relationships in the past, you know what your faults and problems are...you've been reminded of them many times by your former partner.
The truth is you aren't likely to modify your likes or dislikes just because you're in love. Actually most people hide their true likes and dislikes during the first few weeks of infatuation then blow out and revert to their normal selves.
In initial encounters with members of the opposite sex, or same sex as the case may be, folks tend to focus on what they have in common and not on the other sides of them that are potential relationship problems.
Go to any internet dating site, and there's very little emphasis on dislikes and issues.
Most relationships start off focused on the positive connections, then the rest of the relationship is spent hassling over the non-positive elements until the point is reached where the couple tolerates (usually grudgingly) the negatives, or the negatives finally outweigh the positives and breakup occurs.
An incredible amount of time and energy is spent grappling with relational negativities.
The smart thing to do is get them out on the table early on in a blossoming relationship.
But, this starts with you being honest with yourself and your partner being honest with themselves right at the beginning on a relationship that one hopes will last more than one night. Do not read any further if all you are seeking is a one night stand. Remember, be careful what you wish for...if the Deity doesn't like you She might grant your prayer.
Scientists at the General Delivery University have concluded that is a good idea to exchange negativities very early on (though after the first night in bed) and see how that looks. Negotiate what is or is not going to be a deal-breaker right up front.
Take the following Sexual Relationship Incompatibility Test with your partner or would-be partner. Compare your results. We guarantee a lot of interesting conversation will result.
Find out where you really agree or disagree about your sexual relationship. Each partner takes the test, and then you compare the results. Unless we misunderstand such things, you both will resolve a lot of potential issues between you real fast.
SEXUAL INCOMPATIBILITY TEST
Copyright 2006 by Hugh Holub PhD